What are you going to do this year?
Are you going to do what you know you should do?
Because the only thing that is different, between the qualities of people’s lives, is their standards of the things that they make a must. What is a must for you? Because, if you want to stay in the same place as you were last year, then don’t do anything different. But if you want to be in a different place than last year, then the only way that’s going to happen is if you’re going to do something different from what you did last year.
That begins with asking the question “Who are you going to be this year? What are you going to believe? And what are you going to focus on?” Because whatever you focus on is going to expand. A lot of people get stuck because they focus on what they don’t want, what they can’t control, and what they don’t have.
Many people talk a good game and say “I’m going to do this, I’m going to do that this year”. But the truth of it is they hate challenges or problems in their lives. And they quit. This is what most people do. They say they’re going to do all these great things. But when it comes down to it, or when they’re getting hit by the universe or a little break downs jump from the sky and hit them on the head, they decide to sit down and lay on the grass for the rest of the year. And they’ve quit even before they give themselves a chance to achieve what they really wanted.
You don’t want to be that person now. You want to be the doer this year and you’re going to start to achieve that by raising your standards and by demanding more of yourself.
For most people, what holds them back is that they struggle to believe in themselves and what they can achieve in their lives. Therefore, they don’t take actions and struggle with things like impostor syndrome.
I spoke to a lady today and she said to me “Luke, I want to achieve all these things. I’ve done all these coaching studies, but I think to myself like who am I to tell people they can achieve their goals? Who am I to coach somebody? Who am I to do this?”
People take advice all the time. They take advice from the mainstream media, from the news, and even from people who don’t have their best interest at heart and wonder why they’re stuck.
You have been conditioned your whole life to live in a state of fear. And that’s a problem. I don’t know if you’ve ever questioned this, but ever since you grew up in school, they tell you all the things that you can’t do, what you can’t be, what you can’t have. And people project those limitations on you. Then you begin to wonder why you are what you are. Because you’ve listened to the wrong people.
Your breakthrough happens when you ask yourself “Who am I really? Am I really these thoughts in my head that limit me? Are you really those thoughts? Is that who you are?” No. Those are just thoughts in your head that you’ve learned and taken on. They’re not yours, but you’re letting them control you.
You are not your thoughts. You’re the infinite awareness and infinite source of where everything comes from. You’re connected to everything and everyone that can’t be measured or limited. Nothing can measure the totality of who you are.
I think it starts by asking yourself what will make this year a great year.
What do you want to achieve?
What are your goals for your health?
What’s your goal weight?
What’s your muscle mass?
What do you want your body to look like?
How much energy do you want to have each day?
Then you want to ask yourself what your goals are in the relationship area of your life.
Maybe you want to find a partner or maybe you want to leave your partner—find a new one. But you’ve got to get clear of what you want in this relationship area of your life. That’s really important.
What’s the relationship with yourself going to be like?
What emotions are you committed to living in this year?
Most people live in the emotions of anger, sadness, fear, hurt, frustration, beating themselves up because they’re somewhere different from the person next door to them.
So, are you going to be compassionate with yourself?
Are you going to be loving?
Are you going to be kind to yourself this year?
And then you find answers.
What are your goals there?
What do you want to see happen?
What do you want to see be achieved?
And in your business or career.
Where do you want to be?
What skills do you need to learn to become or to achieve your goals in your business or career?
Very often we need different skills. Ask yourself what skills are missing. Maybe you are missing marketing skills, lead generation, and sales. It could be anything, but you’ve got to ask what’s missing and you’ve got to learn it.
What experiences or adventures do you want to have?
How do you want to reward yourself?
I think you should reward yourself once you achieve certain miles in your life. Because otherwise, what are you doing it for? Then the other thing is, what are your goals in your philanthropy? What causes and how much you want to contribute to different causes and charities?
I’ve set a goal of what we want to give this year as a company to charity. I love giving to Operation Underground Railroad, which is a foundation that’s about protecting kids from sex slavery and child trafficking. Because there are 2 million kids a year that are trafficked and are sold for sex.
Set goals in all those areas and then ask yourself what are the values that you need most in your life?
What are the emotions you are going to live in?
What identity do you need?
Most people think about the future with their identity. And their identity comes from their history–where they don’t think about their worth, what they want in their life, or they just think that they’re broke and keep telling themselves “I’m broke”. That’s what they continue to manifest. They tell themselves that they’re impostors, that they’re procrastinators, or that they’re shy or whatever it is.
Doing that doesn’t serve you. You got to come up with a new identity.
I think early on I’ve shared this, where I have no money I’ve slept in my van and I just got training and coaching. I told myself I’m a million-dollar coach. I said who I am in my future is who I am today.
You become what you think about. Don’t just sit in silence. Don’t just be a talker. Be a doer and take some risks. You got to do things you’ve never done before, you’ve got to invest in courses or programs to learn what you need to learn. There is no growth without risk. Everything you want is on the other side of fear.
I talked to a number of people and some of them want a different life. I ask them what’s holding them back. The reason why they stay stuck is that they tell themselves stories about why they’re not where they want to be. They say “I don’t have the time, I don’t have the money, I don’t have the resources, I don’t have work, I don’t have the leads, and I couldn’t have something that’s outside of me”. But those are some things that are inside of you. What you don’t have is the commitment, hunger, resourcefulness, and the whatever-it-takes attitude.
Many people are also missing their total self-honesty. And you can’t change what you’re not honest about. So it’s time to be honest with yourself.
What is really holding you back?
What is the root cause?
It’s time to deal with it. It’s time to make a new decision. You’ve got to commit to doing the actions and you’ve got to commit to doing the work.
It will pay off. There is an allowed time and there is a delay in the results that you get after the actions that you take. A lot of people get stuck because they take this action in a short span, and they wonder why the universe didn’t drop them million dollars from the sky. It’s because they didn’t commit for long enough, they didn’t stay the course long enough, and they only played one game– not the whole season, that’s why they didn’t win at the end.
You have to think the whole year, you’ve got the same standard. You’ve got to make it a must.
What helps to motivate me is the goals that I have to contribute outside of myself and thinking of how I’m going to help other people who can’t get to help themselves. That drives me a lot. I think you should set some goals of what you want to give outside of yourself as well. People will do more for others than they would do for themselves.
I hope you’ve got some value out of that and you make some new decisions about what you are going to commit to for this year, about what your standards are going to be. And make it happen.
